"Where there is no vision, the people will perish".
Last week, out of the blue, my daughter approached me in a very distraught manner. She was concerned because she said she wasn't sure whether she's really sorry for her sins or she's just scared of getting into trouble. Isn't that such a poignant question? It got me thinking about how to address that. Then I remembered what we do in OD...vision setting. It means giving your kids an idea of what they can be and then eventually plotting steps towards that goal.
I decided to design a Vision Setting activity for my daughter in which the whole family participated. Here's how it works:
- I introduced the concept of "ideal" to Andrea.
- We all drew our ideal selves.
- We read the Bible verse Luke 2:52 And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man
- We discussed what that meant. We listed the 4 ways Jesus grew (Wisdom, Stature, Favor with God and Favor with Man)
- We talked about what each meant.
- We asked ourselves what it would be like if we grew like Jesus did.
- We wrote down our plans on how to grow like Jesus did.We discussed our plans with each other.
- We explained to her how this should guide her decision making. For example she wants to buy 2 books but she only has money for one. What should be the consideration? (She said what would make her smarter because that's her vision, to be smart and wise)
- We addressed concerns she had (My daughter's primary concern was her lego. She though that legos don't fit into her vision).
- And lastly, we practiced her analysis by giving her activities or choices and then asking her how it helped make her grow like Jesus or made her less like Jesus. For example swimming, how does that help?
See our output from our activity:
We didn't stop with that activity. We kept reinforcing the concept by showing her how the things she does helps her achieve her vision. She was thrilled for example when she realized that attending Sunday school actually helped her improve in all 4 aspects.
The results of the activity have been extraordinary. She became more conscious about eating healthy. She exerted effort to talk to people. She kept pushing herself in various ways without my prodding. I told a group of ladies that we often underestimate the drive of children. Here, it is apparent that if we show the kids the possibilities...what they can be. They get excited and driven to try harder.
I hope this helps your kids.